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April 6, 2007

“It’s Rough, Being the Easter Bunny” —

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 4:57 am

easter-bunny1.png This is not original to me, but it’s funny and timely, what with Easter so soon upon us. Thanks to Science Blogs for this post! Happy Spring!

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April 5, 2007

“Thinking Ethics” Games —

Filed under: Ethics,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 7:54 am

istock_000001978461small.jpgI like the Thinking Ethics blog, and only wish it were easier to link to direct posts on the site-you can navigate to the categories and specific posts from within the site, but it seems to only give the home page http: address. Here’s about some ethical computer games, posted Monday, April 2:

Role playing

Here are three intresting ethical computer games:

You can help stop the crisis in Darfur as you role play in a refugee camp in

You can see what it is like to live in poverty and try to stay healthy in Haiti in the Unicef Voices of Youth game Ayiti: The Cost of Life

You can save and rebuild an island in the World Food Program’s Food Force.

Here’s a post about another source of ethical games and puzzles (from March 9) :

Games and puzzles

ERC, the Ethics Resource Center, a site devoted to organizational ethics in the US, has a selection of ethical games and puzzles (mostly crosswods). link here

And another (from Feb. 6):

Ethics Games

In case you want to practice – new computer game that is “sweeping the Federal Agencies…”, the US Office of Government Ethics proudly presents… here

Also the Institute of Business Ethics in the UK has some great teaching material – the business cases can be found here.

Thank you, Thinking Ethics!

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March 26, 2007

Free Workshop On Applications of Psychological Type in Conflict Communication Offered at New Mexico Mediation Association’s Winter Convocation —

Filed under: Business,Theory To Practice,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 10:50 am

easel.jpgThe New Mexico Mediation Association’s March 31st Winter Convocation at the UNM Law School offers two tracks of workshops with four free workshops within each track. I’m presenting Communicating with Psychological Type in Mind During Conflict. It’s based on Carl Jung’s principles of psychological type as measured by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®), probably the most widely used assessment instrument of its kind (millions are administered annually in the US, and more in other countries around the world). I’ll overview applications in mediation and benefits to mediators and other conflict specialists in knowing and applying the principles, including assisting clients getting through misunderstandings based on type differences, identifying blind spots in the problem- solving process based on type, use of type to bridge cultural and gender differences based on type similarities, and the mediator’s own use of type to identify the kind of practice she wants. I’m a qualified administrator of the MBTI®, and greatly appreciate it as a tool.

Use of this psychological type analysis is better studied in the law practice field than in the mediation practice context. The most notable law-related works are University of Florida Law Professor Don Peters’ article, Forever Jung: Psychological Type Theory, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and Learning Negotiation, 42 DRAKE LAW REVIEW 1 (1993); and Florida Coastal School of Law Professor Susan Swaim Daicoff’s book, Lawyer, Know Theyself: A Psychological Analysis of Personality Strengths and Weaknesses, American Psychological Association (2004). Direct works are slowly showing up in the mediation practice context, most notably in Sondra S. VanSant’s Wired For Conflict: The Role of Personality in Resolving Differences, Center for Application of Psychological Type, Inc. (2003).

The other workshops offered Saturday are:


Journey into the Heart of Conflict: A Creative Exercise for Your Inner Author (Using Both Sides of Your Brain) presented by Cynthia Olson, with Wallace Ford


Mediation is the journey into the complexity of conflict, searching collaboratively for the links which can tie the elements of resolution and transformation. The mediator’s own journey and experience contributes to this adventure – we are where we’ve been. Come write a book about your personal journey, take the next step on your quest!



Cultural Competency for Mediators, presented by Tonya Covington


As the country becomes more diverse and the majority population prepares to become the minority, cultural competency is imperative. This is particularly true in New Mexico, where mediators are increasingly called upon to mediate inter-cultural disputes. Learn tips on mediating for other cultures and across cultures.



Engaging Reluctant Parties, presented by Stéphane Trustorff Luchini


Prospective participants in a conflict intervention process may initially indicate reluctance or resistance to participate when approached by a mediator or other intervenor. Such parties may be engaged to participate, and when they do, will likely report satisfaction with the process as do parties who initially readily agree to participate. For mediation and restorative justice that uses mediation to be widely accepted, mediators may have to be able to effectively engage initially reluctant or resistant prospective participants. Stéphane Trustorff Luchini will present research findings and practice applications, and facilitate an illicitive inquiry of this topic with workshop participants.



Building Your Mediation Business, presented by Debra Oliver


Are you one of those mediators and/or facilitators who would like to transform your volunteer practice into a paying proposition or quit your day job? If so, you won’t want to miss Debra Oliver as she talks about the importance of marketing yourself, thinking and acting like an entrepreneur. Debra will also talk about the importance of finding good mentors and the value of mentoring others.



Ethics and Power in Mediation, presented byWallace Ford


New Mexico Mediation Association has a statement of ethics to which all members agree, as does the Association for Conflict Resolution. This statement points the mediator toward the moral and spiritual foundations upon which our conflict resolution is built. This workshop will explore key moral and spiritual themes embedded in the mediation experience, distinguishing the frames-of-reference we use and identifying the metaphors of well-being which guide our work. Particular attention will also be paid on how reason-giving establishes the power dynamic of conflict and ways the mediator narrates balance.




Latino Families and Domestic Violence, presented by Mariana Montejano (Community outreach trainer, New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence)


Domestic violence is a crucial issue for any mediator working with family and divorce mediation to be able to screen for and recognize. Cultural context shapes everyone’s life and domestic violence occurs in most if not all cultural contexts. This session will discuss domestic violence in the context of Latinas’ lives – daily experience, reality (“way of living”), and psyche (“way of thinking”) to better understand domestic violence within the Latino community. Come explore how to work specifically with this cultural group.



Thank you, New Mexico Mediation Association for sponsoring this event, and thank you, to all presenters for their volunteer efforts in enriching the practice of mediation!

March 12, 2007

The Power of Forgiveness To Air As Part of The Fetzer Institute’s Campaign for Love and Forgiveness —

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 9:47 am

easel.jpgMy thanks to one of Engaging Conflict’s  readers for forwarding me the links for this.  The Fetzer Institute is sponsoring The Campaign for Love & Forgiveness, a campaign extending from late 2006 into 2008 that:

combines public television programming, community activities and events, and on-line discussions to encourage contemplation and conversation about how love and forgiveness can effect meaningful change in individuals and society.

As I like film, I’m particularly interested in the PBS programming, which comprises the broadcast of three documentaries: The Mystery of Love, The Power of Forgiveness, and Unforgivable?

The Power of Forgiveness includes interviews with Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh, and Nobel Peace Laureate Elie Wiesel. Here’s a description:

This film examines the power of forgiveness in alleviating anger and grief caused by the most dramatic transgressions imaginable and those that are more commonplace. Among its subjects the film will feature families of victims from the tragedy of 9/11 and forgiveness education in Northern Ireland, where unforgiveness has been a way of life for generations.

You can check the film’s special, pre-PBS release screening schedule to see if it is coming to a city near you.

The Campaign’s website also includes Practices, and Resources, of love and forgiveness.

March 1, 2007

World Peace Conference In Santa Fe —

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 8:14 am

easel.jpgThis from a friend here in Santa Fe:

Dear Friends of Peace,
You are cordially invited to attend the Building a Culture of Peace global conference on May 16-17 2007 in Santa Fe, New Mexico.  The conference will be held at the Hilton Hotel in downtown Santa Fe.  Registration and further information is at
This working conference will call together 500 local, national and global leaders for inquiry and strategic thinking on the question, “What would it take to transform the current culture of violence in our societies to a true culture of peace?”

Prominent peace leaders who will address us in plenary session are Arun Gandhi, and Nobel Peace Laureates Rigoberta Menchu Tum and Jody Williams, with H.H. the Dalai Lama joining the conference by video.  The rest of our time will be structured around five Peace Councils:
– Our Youth, Our Promise:
– Demilitarization and a Peace Economy
– Knowing the Others as Ourselves
– The Living Spirit of Peace
– The Politics of Peace

Using an “Open Space” technology that allows for all participants to consider the issues they are passionate about, each Council will spend two days exploring the leading-edge questions related to their Council and our overall topic.  They will be encouraged to identify best practices, share information and resources, build alliances and partnerships and explore (and commit to) strategic action steps.

The output from the conference – the plenary talks, data from the national leaders working with each Council and interviews – will be collected and made available online, as a next step towards a larger process of further galvanizing the global culture of peace movement.

Please join us, by registering at, where you can also find more details on the Councils and the conference theme. Register early as places are limited and the registration price of $45 goes to $65 on April 1.   We have a group rate of 20% off, for prepaid registrations of 5 people or more – contact <> for details.

If you are involved in an organization promoting peace, consider also promoting your work and ideas by taking a table ($25) at the Peace Fair, which will take place during the conference.

Please pass this email along to all your friends, colleagues and networks, so that those who choose peace as the path for our times will know about this rich and rare opportunity.

January 9, 2007

Engaging Conflicts In 2007 —

Please note the new address:

In 2007, Engaging Conflicts will continue to center on issues identified by Bernie Mayer’s Beyond Neutrality: Confronting the Crisis in Conflict Resolution, Chris Honeyman’s Theory to Practice work (focusing on his new book, The Negotiator’s Fieldbook: the Desk Reference for the Experienced Negotiator, co-edited with Andrea Kupfer Schneider), and the October 2006 Keystone Consolidating Our Collective Wisdom conference; as well as my Wikis and Podcasts and Blogs, Oh My! program – use of the new social media on the internet for professional, personal and business development. I’ll provide Tips, Treats, and Tools, and talk about Health, Conflict and Stress, on occasion, too.

Some Guest Bloggers In 2007

Planned guest bloggers for 2007 include Kristine Paranica, J.D., Administrative Director and Fellow of the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation (ISCT) on transformative mediation and practice; and John Lande, J.D., Director of the Master of Laws Program In Dispute Resolution at the University of Missouri-Columbia School of Law, on cooperative law, as distinguished from collaborative law.

In Engaging Conflicts Today, the newsletter (subscribe by clicking in the sidebar!), I’ve planned interviews with Bernie Mayer, John Paul Lederach, Robert Benjamin, Chris Honeyman, Janis Magnuson (of Janis Publications), Diane Levin (of the Online Guide To Mediation blog), Jack Cooley, John Stephens, Ann Gosline, and Howard Gadlin, among others. And, as I said, The Negotiator’s Fieldbook, Chris Honeyman’s and Andrea Kupfer Schneider’s new book, will also be highlighted in 2007 (in both the newsletter and in the blog), with reviews, summaries and interviews.

At the new site, you’ll see the administrative categories tabbed across the topbar (Welcome, Contact, Why Engaging Conflicts?, Guest Bloggers, RSS FAQ). The first box at the top of the right sidebar lets you search the blog using keywords. You can then bookmark the blog at Technorati (use the green icon); subscribe to the blog for free at FeedBurner (use the orange icon); and then subscribe to Engaging Conflicts Today by clicking on the blue hyperlinked “Free Engaging Conflicts Newsletter!” I have fewer categories. Also, each post now allows linking with 13 different social content and social bookmarking websites, e.g.,, digg and smarking. (If you don’t know what any of these terms and options are, spend some time in the Wikis and Podcasts and Blogs, Oh My! category!) Finally, I’ve disabled commenting, to help save the site from robotic spamming – write me privately, and I’ll respond, though.

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January 1, 2007

Health Fitness and Barriers —

Filed under: Health, Conflict and Stress,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 9:09 am

Please note: this blog has moved to — please reset your bookmarks, accordingly. I’ll cross-post for a while, yet.

It’s New Year’s Day — Happy New Year to us all! Most of us will at least consider resolutions to do or be better in 2007, and, for many of us, getting fitter will be one of them. Will we follow them?

Jane E. Brody, New York Times Personal Health columnist urges us, “To Avoid ‘Boomeritis,’ Exercise, Exercise, Exercise” in her December 19th column (note: a TimesSelect membership may be necessary for access) — as she says, citing Dr. Nicholas A. DiNubile, an orthopedic surgeon at the Hostipial of the University of Pennsylvania, “evolution ha[s] not kept up withthe doubling of the human life span in the last 100 years. To counter the inevitable declines with age, we have to provide our bodies with an extended warranty,” i.e., fitness.

Yet, while most of us know the benefits of exercise, few of us exercise enough, or exercise consistently enough. Why? There’s a good article available for free download posted at Change, by Michale Gonzales, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist. As he says in his introduction:

With all the data there is about why people should exercise, why do they still have a tendency not to? As there are many types of exercise an individual can choose, not exercising is also a choice. No one can write a book or a scientific paper that will fully explain why some people do not exercise or why they exercise erratically. For this answer one really need[s] to look within. This paper is written to help people do just that — look within.

The quick answer to the question of why an individual does not exercise has to do with time, motiviation and worthiness. These factors will be addressed in this paper: finding time, getting motivated, and believing that he or she is worth the time and effort necessary to get healthier and more fit.

Here’s the link to the paper.

I won’t see you at the gym … my first fitness resolution is to walk more, first. But walk more, I will!

December 20, 2006

Holiday Thoughts: Why We Shop, Ethical Shopping, and the Hunger Site —

Filed under: Ethics,Spirit,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 8:39 am

With this rich season of holidays and celebrations, here are some online selections to inform our actions, and aid charitable giving:
“Why We Shop” by Jennifer Michael Hecht (will require a subscription to the New York Times’ Times Select to access): “History suggests that holiday shopping fills an ancient need to gather and tithe, and serves as a modern-day ritual of renewal;”
Some “ethical shopping sites”, thanks to the Thinking Ethics blog; and — my favorite online donation site — The Hunger Site, where “[y]our click helps feed the hungry with the value of 1.1 cups of staple food.” I love this site especially because it also has tabs across the top for donations to The Breast Cancer Site, where “[y]our click, along with others today, will fund free mammograms for women in need;” The Child Health Site, where “[y]our click, along with others’ today, provides basic but critical health services to more than 1,000 children. Each click helps prevent life-threatening diseases, restore vision to blind children, and enable child amputees to walk; The Literacy Site, where “[y]our click, along with others’ today, helps children in need discover the joy of books;” The Rainforest Site, where “[y]our click has funded the preservation of 11.4 square feet of endangered rainforest;” and The Animal Rescue Site, where “[y]our click provided the value of .6 bowls of food and care to a rescued animal in a shelter or sanctuary.”

Just clicking where indicated gives the donation — all you spend is a little time. You can sign up for emailed reminders to visit the site.

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November 22, 2006

Thanksgiving Treats –

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 4:29 pm

Happy Thanksgiving! Here are some links to explore, if you like:

Thanksgiving ala Ben and Jerry’s

NASA’s Thanksgiving Skies

Thanksgiving as researched by the staff at Plimoth Plantation of Plymouth, MA

Wikipedia’s take on Thanksgiving, including:

    • 1 Traditional celebration
      • 1.1 United States
      • 1.2 Canada
    • 2 History of Thanksgiving in North America
      • 2.1 Thanksgiving in the United States
        • 2.1.1 Pilgrims
        • 2.1.2 The Revolutionary War to Nationhood
        • 2.1.3 Lincoln and the Civil War
        • 2.1.4 F.D. Roosevelt to present
      • 2.2 Thanksgiving in Canada
    • 3 References
    • 4 See also
    • 5 External links
      • 5.1 Thanksgiving food links

November 8, 2006

Podcamp West – San Francisco — Not Just For Bloggers, Podcasters, and Video Bloggers (Vloggers)

It’s for everyone who wants to understand the new media better. I just checked – 128 registrants so far for Podcamp West – San Francisco, November 18 – 19, 2006. Are you coming? It’s an UnConference:

The power of an UnConference is you get FREE access to ideas, thoughts, best practices, and the true “wisdom of crowds” simply by registering and attending. An UnConference brings people with many different skill sets together with the spirit of sharing and learning. We’re audio and video podcasters, enthusiasts, businesspeople, hobbyists, musicians, promoters, marketers, and people who generally want to understand more about the new media space. We would like everyone to participate in some form or another and learn.

Here’s who should attend:

Podcamp West is for people interested in new media. Bloggers, Podcasters, Video Bloggers (Vloggers) are the people, who the conference serves best. If you’re interested in doing something with new media, you’ll want to attend. Are you an individual or school or library wondering how to incorporate podcasting into projects and community events? Are you a corporation type wondering how you should get involved in new Media? Are you a venture group thinking about whether to invest in this new media space? Come to PodCamp West, learn, share and you will have the answers.


Sessions spread over two days will focus on planning for content, content creation, content publishing and subscription models, production quality, tools, recording techniques, video composition, editing skills, audio & video post production techniques. Also included are sessions on Monetization of New Media formats, Podcasting and Video Blogging and impact of new media on business, Directly communicating with customers in Web 2.0 world, New Media marketing and public relations. The sessions are held in the format of a conversation with the people in the room participating actively.


Podcamp West is being held in San Francisco at the historic Swedish American Hall. The venue has access to a few large areas to assemble for sessions and areas earmarked for decompressing and for demo tables. The venue is very accessible by public transport – you can ride a train, take a bus, or just ride your bike. It’s VERY accessible to folks either coming from far away or locally. Parking around is generally paid parking or unless you get a lucky parking spot on the road.

It’s free to attend but you do have to register. I’ve linked to the registration site in this earlier post, or go here.
Hope to see you there!

November 2, 2006

Using Emotions As You Negotiate Makes For More Effective Negotiations

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 4:38 am

Negotiator Roger Fisher and psychologist Daniel Shapiro last year published Beyond Reason: Using Emotion As You Negotiate, from the Harvard Negotiation Project. They offer free resources online about the book’s principles, i.e., that there are five core concerns that stimulate emotion: autonomy, affiliation, status, appreciation (the one perhaps underlying everything else), and role (is it satisfying?). Most practically, they recommend and provide a free online emotions preparation tool to take before your next conflict or mediation.

Here, too, are some free online interviews with the authors:

at Negotiating Tip of the Week
at Legal Talk Network

October 31, 2006

Online Mediation’s “Ghost Of a Chance: Three Ways Mediators Can Celebrate Halloween”

Filed under: Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 8:00 am

Diane Levin celebrates the holiday with real class, and shares her favorite holiday with us on her blog, Online Guide To Mediation:

Ghost of a chance: three ways mediators can celebrate Halloween

Happy Halloween from Online Guide to MediationDespite the efforts of retail giants to commercialize Halloween, October 31 remains my favorite holiday. What’s not to like about a day that encourages chocolate consumption?

To kick off the festivities, I propose three ways that mediators can get in on the celebration:

1. Consider a daring new practice area.

A business in Indonesia advertises itself as “the last resort for professional ghost removal and mediation services” (emphasis mine). In addition to serving as mediators in your disputes with the damned, they are also available to assist as negotiators on your behalf to rid your home of pesky poltergeists. They seem to rely upon an integrative, interest-based negotiation framework, according to their web site:

…some entities have a demand since they have a ‘territory’ to respect. Sometimes we need to know their intention and demand before we remove them.

Evidently, successful negotiations with the dead, much as with the living, depend upon a thorough exploration of mutual interests. (One can only imagine the discussion about BATNA.)

2. Sign up for a course in intergalactic conflict resolution.

Mediators eager to explore new frontiers may wish to consider one of the courses taught at the Exopolitics Institutefeatured here before on this blog): either Exopolitics 102: Citizen Diplomacy with Extraterrestrials, which includes a module on conflict resolution and mediation for the resolution of interplanetary disputes, or Multidimensional Ambassadors – Peace Building with ETs, Angels and Dolphins. (While there’s time, don’t forget to sign up for the Extraterrestrial Civilizations and World Peace Conference in May 2007.)

3. Do some seasonal reading to get into the holiday spirit.

May I suggest this post of mine from last Halloween: “High spirits: legal issues can arise on sale of haunted houses“, which concludes with discussion of an unsuccessful effort to bring a lawsuit against Satan.

Happy Halloween, everybody.

Thank you, Diane — the same to you!

October 25, 2006

The Mediation vBlog Project

A great new project is now live! Geoff Sharp, a commercial mediator and barrister (lawyer) in New Zealand, hosts short video clips by real mediators, on whatever topics they want to share at his new project. Here’s more (click on the link to go directly to the site):


Welcome to the Mediation vBlog Project!

The idea behind the Mediation vBlog Project is to take advantage of recent video sharing technology to post short video clips of mediators everywhere at work. The more ‘live’ the better. The site provides a platform for mediators from around the globe to share their skills by video. Simple really. Let’s roll!

[This is] the first, the very first, to track our practice and all things mediation by video blog – a kind of mediation genome project by video blog.

My idea is to take advantage of recent video sharing technology to post short video clips of mediators everywhere at work, the more live the better. The growth of video social networking is amazing with 60,000 new videos uploaded every day and over 100 million viewed every day, as more people explore this type of online medium.

Bravo, Geoff!

October 12, 2006

Free Online Conflict Measure For Engaging Conflicts Today Sign-up!

We all live and work in the midst of conflicts — some big, some small; some intimate, some global; some physical, some emotional. Many of us work directly in handling conflict as part of our jobs or professions.

As I have posted earlier (see the post immediately before this one), I’m on a panel today on “marketing mediation excellence” — an online teleconference that will discuss uses of the internet for marketing. The internet is also a great and growing resource and vehicle for professional development (not just marketing development), and even the provisioning of conflict management services. (See my earlier posts about Cyberweek 2006 in the Wikis and Podcasts and Blogs, Oh My! category, or use the search box to find them — for more about online dispute resolution.)

I would love for you to subscribe to my newsletter, Engaging Conflicts Today, and there’s a box in the sidebar you can click on to subscribe. Each issue provides an indepth interview with a leader in law or mediation or in innovative business dealing with conflict issues; and more. Would you please give it a try and let me know how I can make it more interesting and useful for you? I’ve a special gift for everyone who sign up today — I will send you a link for a free, online assessment on how well you handle conflict. If for any reason who can’t sign up online through the sidebar box, please do one of the following: (1) sign up at, or (2) send me an email with “subscribe” in the subject line, and with your email address, your full name and your postal mailing address in the body (email this to

Would you please also pass this opportunity on to friends and colleagues you think might be interested.? Thank you!

October 6, 2006

Emotions Have a Great Deal Of Influence On the Quality Of Our Thinking and Thus, Our Behavior

Filed under: Health, Conflict and Stress,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 5:19 am

The goal of emotional intelligence awareness is to better understand and manage our own emotions in order to think and communicate in a more constructive (and healthy) manner.

Also as part of the Emotional Intelligence Institute’s campaign to make October Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month (see earlier post), here’s a free poster you are invited to have and share.

October 5, 2006

Free Emotional Intelligence Assessment In Conjunction With Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month

Filed under: Health, Conflict and Stress,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 8:05 am

The Emotional Intelligence Institute has initiated a campaign to make October Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month. As part of the campaign, they are offering their SEI Strengths Report at no charge (when it is usually $15). Here’s their information:

Identify your top EQ strengths and how to apply them.

What are your emotional intelligence assets? How are you using them to get optimal results in your work and life?

The SEI Strengths Report (SR) is a quick and accurate snapshot to help you make the most of your emotional intelligence. It gives you the full power of an in-depth psychometric assessment, including 2 self-correcting indices and a highly sophisticated scoring algorithm based on 14 different normed scales. But where the full SEI reports go into extensive detail on eight competencies, the SR distills the data to three areas you can immediately apply.

For the next week you are invited to try the Six Seconds Emotional Intelligence Strengths Report.

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July 5, 2006


Filed under: Health, Conflict and Stress,Tips, Treats, and Tools — Gini @ 10:52 am

[Ah, summer vacations and spam catchers help us! However, they can interfer with tight deadlines! The sign-up period is extended through Monday, July 17th!]

Conflict is stressful! Poorly managed stress is bad for our health and our quality of life! For great self-care advice with on-point science behind it, RealAge is one of my favorite resources — it rates better stress management as the #1 most important way to “grow younger” (i.e., not age unnecessarily). I’m giving away one free copy of The RealAge Makeover — Take Years Off Your Looks and Add Them To Your Life, by Michael F. Roizen, M.D. — sign up for free, email delivery of Gini Nelson’s Engaging Conflicts News by Wednesday, July 12, 2006, to be entered in the drawing. Sign up at or send me an email with “Free Book” in the subject line, and your email address, your full name and your postal mailing address in the body (

Please pass this opportunity on to friends and colleagues you think might be interested. Thank you!

Oh, and … good luck!

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